Big things are happening in my life at the moment and it's an odd sort of situation where I am moving forward yet have this lingering grip of pain holding on for dear life! When I consider what my body is going through at the moment the reality of that is so far from what is going on in the rest of my life it's unclear how to match the two up!
The week before last the local paper did a story featuring the album launch and my illness. It was nerve wracking doing the interview because I so rarely talk openly about the reality of living with Hypermobility Syndrome but I felt I owed it to everyone diagnosed not to down play my symptoms and just be really honest.
The paper did a great job in captivating my general positivity but were also very to the point in writing about the symptoms. I was really pleased with the article. It was a good message.
Then after that Steve and I went off to the local radio to do an interview which will be aired today. They are also going to play a song off the album too. There are no words to describe how wonderfully surreal that feels!! A song I jointly wrote and performed... on the radio? WHAT?
It feels like everything I have 'been through' has been bringing me to this place. I am under no illusions that the struggles are over but I feel like I have enough strength in me now to soldier on.
Gosh that sounds so incredibly cheesy but something happened Friday night during the gig. I feel like I came home. I don't like to focus on the negative things but it's not been the easiest of lives! I've always had this strange sense though that in the end it would all work out, that I had a 'something' to fulfil. I've never felt like what I was going through was by any means the meaning of life. I guess I have always rest assured that things could and would change and retained this sense of 'Clo' that keeps me silly and positive and determined. I still couldn't tell you what the purpose of my life will be (I've never been very good at knowing where I'm going!) but I feel like I am on the right tracks, I believe when the time is right it will be revealed to me. I have to pay attention to what is being said around me and people are buzzing. Something is shifting.
I don't really know if I can put Friday into words, Nor can I ever write truly how much I appreciate the work of everyone involved to make the night happen!
We were able to portray how well we've all gelled in the rehearsals up on stage and from what people have said we knocked it out the park. The response from people has been overwhelming. My sister said 'Tonight you became the person you were always meant to be', another friend commented 'I've never seen anyone so relaxed on stage before'. My parents were beside themselves with pride. It really feels like something special happened Friday. It completely smashed all my expectations of how well it 'may' go!!
I feel like this whole experience has helped me learn to manage my symptoms better. I think I've reached a new level of listening to my body and taking cues from it. I am getting better at putting my body first and when it needs rest I rest. When it seems a soak in the bath will help I get in the bath. I may have finally realised how to live successfully along side it rather then seeing it as his absurd 'thing' that just hurts me all the time!
So symptoms update;
Still being sick if and when I attempt solid food.
Pain in my oesophagus when I swallow, sometimes this even applies to water (ow)
Back ache, oh the back ache!
Thumb on my right hand is really swollen at the minute, I must continue to persevere with the turmeric tea!
The middle finger on my right hand seems to have improved somewhat ,in terms of movement.
Hips, well, they are my hips, how do I describe my hips? Clicking, popping, dislocating and very sore. I've discovered a very hot wheat bag in the groan is helping with the hip pain. Possibly because it's burning hot on the skin so takes my mind off it but hey... it's a break!
I am juicing loads which is having an amazingly positive effect on my fatigue! I am also drinking turmeric tea a few times a day and I must say I do think it's beginning to have an effect on my 'bone' pain. The constant ache in my joints does seem to be more manageable. It's less invasive on my mind.
To look after my voice (which is a muscle after all) I am singing everyday and drinking buckets of lemon and ginger.
In terms of what I put into my body I think I must be the healthiest person I know. I cannot imagine how much worse my symptoms would be if I was inactive in the 'fight' against the syndrome. I don't like the word fight, some day it feels like a fight but I don't want it to be a fight. I want it to be a courtship. Where we politely acknowledge each other but don't dictate each others fate!
Off to London for hospital appointments this week, I normally find it so stressful but instead of going there and back in a day we've decided to go up the day before stay over night and then we don't have to get up at lord knows what time of the morning!
I'm not sure we will learn anything new from these appointments but we'll see!
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Tuesday, 19 November 2013
Nailed it
Today was a really good day. I woke up at 4.30am (not a flying start to the day) took some pain killers and knew pretty much straight away that there was absolutely no way I was going to get back to sleep before my alarm went off at 6am but instead of getting irritated I snuggled deep under the duvet and watched some of my favourite content creators on YouTube.
There are so many inspiring people on there, if you can sift through all the pointless videos and get to the proper channels it's really being used as a platform for change now and I love that. My absolute favourites at the moment are EcoVeganGal, (www.ecovegangal.com) Jason Wrobel (www.jasonwrobel.com) and The Vegan Zombie (www.theveganzombie.com) There are all of these videos of people trying to have a positive impact on our planet and their immediate world and it's really inspiring. It's actually making me think maybe I could turn my journey of health into a vlog as well as a blog. Just to put it out there for anyone else living with this condition. It would mean I could keep it going when my hands are too painful to type which would be fantastic.
I've been thinking about vlogging for a while but the idea of talking on camera fills me with dread! I do however have a real desire to share my journey living with chronic illness. I want people who are where I was 18 months ago to be able to read or watch and maybe feel less hopeless? I've also found it really difficult myself to read about other peoples experiences and how it effects them day to day because people either tend to write when it's going really well or when it's all falling apart and there is A LOT of in between that isn't captured.
I have been made aware that I associate my self worth with what I can do physically and I am working really hard to change that. I think because I feel slightly abandoned sometimes which only began when I was unable to physically give to other people it's had a real affect on my confidence, perhaps more then I have been willing to identity.
It isn't about being all happy clappy and look at what I'm achieving despite my body working against me so much but I suppose 'This is what it's like'. It's really difficult to be honest with people around you (and yourself) when you're ill ALL the time because you can end up sounding like a broken record and some people believe it can't possibly be as bad as all that! I think when you live with a genetic disease it goes against this need in our society for people to 'get well', by having a chronic illness you are going against peoples desire to see you return to full health and that can feel really judgemental sometimes. Like, really, do you think if there was anything I could do to make this situation better I wouldn't be doing it?
All that being said though it really makes you strive to find things to be passionate about and I think if you can learn to channel that passion into something positive then you can begin to heal the hurts of not really knowing what you have to offer people anymore. I know for me personally is perhaps one of the biggest emotional injuries of this time in my life.
I am also right at the very beginning of my journey and although I've been on crutches and my hips have been painful for 20 months now (and I have had painful health complaints for the past 10 years) I literally just got diagnosed so I feel like now seems to be like the perfect time to start cataloguing this in a variety of places. I know I have many life lessons to learn and I think I like the idea of being able to look back on those in years to come when hopefully I am doing a much better job of managing this.
It is making yourself really vulnerable though and I don't know anyone who would do that without any thought going into it, I just, I suppose I'm feeling drawn to creating a really honest project that might promote understanding and acceptance for other people living with chronic illness and disability... we'll see.
There are so many inspiring people on there, if you can sift through all the pointless videos and get to the proper channels it's really being used as a platform for change now and I love that. My absolute favourites at the moment are EcoVeganGal, (www.ecovegangal.com) Jason Wrobel (www.jasonwrobel.com) and The Vegan Zombie (www.theveganzombie.com) There are all of these videos of people trying to have a positive impact on our planet and their immediate world and it's really inspiring. It's actually making me think maybe I could turn my journey of health into a vlog as well as a blog. Just to put it out there for anyone else living with this condition. It would mean I could keep it going when my hands are too painful to type which would be fantastic.
I've been thinking about vlogging for a while but the idea of talking on camera fills me with dread! I do however have a real desire to share my journey living with chronic illness. I want people who are where I was 18 months ago to be able to read or watch and maybe feel less hopeless? I've also found it really difficult myself to read about other peoples experiences and how it effects them day to day because people either tend to write when it's going really well or when it's all falling apart and there is A LOT of in between that isn't captured.
I have been made aware that I associate my self worth with what I can do physically and I am working really hard to change that. I think because I feel slightly abandoned sometimes which only began when I was unable to physically give to other people it's had a real affect on my confidence, perhaps more then I have been willing to identity.
It isn't about being all happy clappy and look at what I'm achieving despite my body working against me so much but I suppose 'This is what it's like'. It's really difficult to be honest with people around you (and yourself) when you're ill ALL the time because you can end up sounding like a broken record and some people believe it can't possibly be as bad as all that! I think when you live with a genetic disease it goes against this need in our society for people to 'get well', by having a chronic illness you are going against peoples desire to see you return to full health and that can feel really judgemental sometimes. Like, really, do you think if there was anything I could do to make this situation better I wouldn't be doing it?
All that being said though it really makes you strive to find things to be passionate about and I think if you can learn to channel that passion into something positive then you can begin to heal the hurts of not really knowing what you have to offer people anymore. I know for me personally is perhaps one of the biggest emotional injuries of this time in my life.
I am also right at the very beginning of my journey and although I've been on crutches and my hips have been painful for 20 months now (and I have had painful health complaints for the past 10 years) I literally just got diagnosed so I feel like now seems to be like the perfect time to start cataloguing this in a variety of places. I know I have many life lessons to learn and I think I like the idea of being able to look back on those in years to come when hopefully I am doing a much better job of managing this.
It is making yourself really vulnerable though and I don't know anyone who would do that without any thought going into it, I just, I suppose I'm feeling drawn to creating a really honest project that might promote understanding and acceptance for other people living with chronic illness and disability... we'll see.
Sunday, 17 November 2013
Keep the looks to yourself... rant
It has been a while since I have updated here because it has been really intense since I had the hip blocks. There are but a few words to describe that little ordeal.... HOLY MOLY CHEESE AND WHISKERS has it made things WORSE!! Dear Lord the pain, it has this way of making me think it is the worst it could possibly be then it gets WORSE. There have been days since the hip blocks I think it is going to cost me my sanity! I'm doing my mindfulness exercises to try to put it into perspective and not let it make me anxious but boy this is BIG pain now all the time, I seem to be stuck on an 8-10. It's that sort of all consuming pain that makes it harder and harder to put on a brave face. Last week I thought I did pretty well at getting on but two separate people said to me "Are you ok? I saw you the other say from a distance and you looked really ill/tired"
I have had two hospital appointments in London (which involves a lot of travel from Dorset) which hasn't helped at all (physically) although both appointments have been really positive. You know, as positive as they can be when you have a chronic disease! Haha! ;-)
I now know that the Hypermobility Syndrome is 'extensive' and 'significant' and that it is affecting pretty much my entire body significantly bar my elbows (go elbows! woo!) I have been referred on to see consultants about my eye sight, my feet, my hands and my bowel. I have also been referred to hydrotherapy, a programme especially for people with HMS and EDS and will possibly be sent for in patient rehabilitation. It was the first time (bar my fabulous hip specialist who I started seeing in August) that I have felt I have really been listened to by a consultant at hospital. Not only did she listen she confirmed and affirmed everything that I said about the way my body works and feels and the crazy things it does.
It was also confirmed that the surgery I had on my hip last year will have definitely made my right hip worse and that isn't in my head. I KNEW it was worse but explaining that to people can be really frustrating.
So why the title of this blog? Well, I want to have a little rant. I am not one for ranting or confrontation or 'telling people how it is' in fact I generally shy away from all three HOWEVER here I go...
There are some people sadly who feel that it is their right to judge a disabled person because CLEARLY they can tell the persons extensive medical history just by looking at them and they're not sick really are they? They are just lazy. They believe they have the right to decide that if a person is in a wheelchair or on a mobility scooter they aren't equal to them and it's ok to treat them differently. (Not at all helped by our current governments attitude to disabled people) Well guess what? (If you are a decent human being, as I'm sure you are, you will know the answer to this!) The person you are looking down your nose at has as much right to be where ever it is you are as you do and they have feelings too. Giving them a 'oh you disgusting non human' look will likely stay with that person all day and I see absolutely no need for it.
It's typical bully syndrome. They pick on people 'weaker' then themselves who wouldn't have a fair chance of 'fighting' back and it is outrageous. God I wish I had the strength in me to stand up for myself when people make crude remarks or give me filthy looks. I wish I could publically shame them for the discriminative nasty's that they are but I am yet to build up the 'thick skin' required to deliver such a come back.
People are shocked and taken a back when I tell them about the 'looks' and the comments that I get but it happens all the time, probably once an outing and it's making it really difficult to want to go out. I LOVE my home town and I have always got such a buzz from being out and about in it but when the pain is physically as bad as it has been recently it's really hard to potentially set yourself up for a dose of emotional pain! I get a lot of 'You have to keep going out and learn to live with this' from people who don't necessarily understand that it isn't as easy as that and I know their intentions are good ones but what I really need are people who will say to me 'Don't fancy going out today, I'll come to you'
Back in the spring I would find it really hurtful that people would actually get cross and become distant with me if I said no to an invitation say two or three times and I realised they gave up on me altogether but especially when the town is full of tourists it's really hard to find the bravery to head out, throw in the brain fog that is triggered by the stress of getting such looks and comments and a simple coffee or nip to the shops can turn into an overwhelming experience!
I am going to have to be really kind to my body this week and take it really easy physically. I am working on not equating what I can do physically to how I feel emotionally and have started doing more small scale crafts again so I can sit on the bed and give my body that physical rest it desperately needs when the pain is this bad but keep the old brain engaged in nice things! I will also hopefully have more time and energy to start writing this daily again. I don't want to just update it once or twice a month!
Blessings x x
I have had two hospital appointments in London (which involves a lot of travel from Dorset) which hasn't helped at all (physically) although both appointments have been really positive. You know, as positive as they can be when you have a chronic disease! Haha! ;-)
I now know that the Hypermobility Syndrome is 'extensive' and 'significant' and that it is affecting pretty much my entire body significantly bar my elbows (go elbows! woo!) I have been referred on to see consultants about my eye sight, my feet, my hands and my bowel. I have also been referred to hydrotherapy, a programme especially for people with HMS and EDS and will possibly be sent for in patient rehabilitation. It was the first time (bar my fabulous hip specialist who I started seeing in August) that I have felt I have really been listened to by a consultant at hospital. Not only did she listen she confirmed and affirmed everything that I said about the way my body works and feels and the crazy things it does.
It was also confirmed that the surgery I had on my hip last year will have definitely made my right hip worse and that isn't in my head. I KNEW it was worse but explaining that to people can be really frustrating.
So why the title of this blog? Well, I want to have a little rant. I am not one for ranting or confrontation or 'telling people how it is' in fact I generally shy away from all three HOWEVER here I go...
There are some people sadly who feel that it is their right to judge a disabled person because CLEARLY they can tell the persons extensive medical history just by looking at them and they're not sick really are they? They are just lazy. They believe they have the right to decide that if a person is in a wheelchair or on a mobility scooter they aren't equal to them and it's ok to treat them differently. (Not at all helped by our current governments attitude to disabled people) Well guess what? (If you are a decent human being, as I'm sure you are, you will know the answer to this!) The person you are looking down your nose at has as much right to be where ever it is you are as you do and they have feelings too. Giving them a 'oh you disgusting non human' look will likely stay with that person all day and I see absolutely no need for it.
It's typical bully syndrome. They pick on people 'weaker' then themselves who wouldn't have a fair chance of 'fighting' back and it is outrageous. God I wish I had the strength in me to stand up for myself when people make crude remarks or give me filthy looks. I wish I could publically shame them for the discriminative nasty's that they are but I am yet to build up the 'thick skin' required to deliver such a come back.
People are shocked and taken a back when I tell them about the 'looks' and the comments that I get but it happens all the time, probably once an outing and it's making it really difficult to want to go out. I LOVE my home town and I have always got such a buzz from being out and about in it but when the pain is physically as bad as it has been recently it's really hard to potentially set yourself up for a dose of emotional pain! I get a lot of 'You have to keep going out and learn to live with this' from people who don't necessarily understand that it isn't as easy as that and I know their intentions are good ones but what I really need are people who will say to me 'Don't fancy going out today, I'll come to you'
Back in the spring I would find it really hurtful that people would actually get cross and become distant with me if I said no to an invitation say two or three times and I realised they gave up on me altogether but especially when the town is full of tourists it's really hard to find the bravery to head out, throw in the brain fog that is triggered by the stress of getting such looks and comments and a simple coffee or nip to the shops can turn into an overwhelming experience!
I am going to have to be really kind to my body this week and take it really easy physically. I am working on not equating what I can do physically to how I feel emotionally and have started doing more small scale crafts again so I can sit on the bed and give my body that physical rest it desperately needs when the pain is this bad but keep the old brain engaged in nice things! I will also hopefully have more time and energy to start writing this daily again. I don't want to just update it once or twice a month!
Blessings x x
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